Dads – It’s Time to Lead

Dads - It's Time to Lead

When your daughter is born, she recognizes your voice as deeper than her mother’s. As a toddler, she looks up at your enormous frame and realizes that you are big, smart, and tough. In her grade school years, she instinctively turns to you for direction.

Whatever outward impression she gives, her life is centered on discovering what you like in her, and what you want from her. She knows you are smarter than she is. She gives you authority because she needs you to love and adore her. She -can’t feel good about herself until she knows that you feel good about her. So you need to use your authority carefully and wisely. Your daughter -doesn’t want to see you as an equal. She wants you to be her hero, someone who is wiser and steadier and stronger than she is.

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Listen to Dr. Meg on The Dave Ramsey Show

Listen to Dr. Meg on The Dave Ramsey Show

 

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Emancipation and Adolescence

Emancipation and Adolescence

An important part of adolescence is separating from one’s parents, in a process called emancipation. Teens usually embark upon this around puberty, beginning with baby steps (driving, getting a job, developing their own opinions) and ending with the giant leap into college or on to other adult endeavors.

Although teens want to separate from you, the process itself is frightening for them. That’s why you often see your teenager taking one step forward and two steps back. Your 15-year-old daughter might be into giggling about boys and trying new makeup, while at the same time she sleeps with her stuffed animal from childhood and still wants a goodnight kiss from you.

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Cinderella’s Mean Step-Sisters and Snow White’s Wicked Witches

Cinderella’s Mean Step-Sisters and Snow White's Wicked Witches

Question: I have a grandson who will be 5 next month. He likes the story of Cinderella and also Sleeping Beauty. I asked him why he liked these stories and he said that he likes the naughty step sisters in Cinderella and the wicked witch in Snow White.

This is a child raised in a conservative christian home where they don’t even have a TV and he does not play video games. Should I be concerned about his fixation on the meanness and not the good?

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Daughters who Missed out on Dads

You talk often of the importance of a father in a daughter’s life.  Any advice or books to read for those of us who missed having that type of father. Mine was a godly man but we were never able to connect once I hit puberty. Never any encouragement or outward displays or attempts at showing his love for me as  his only daughter. I feel it has affected the way I see God and struggle with Gods love for me as my heavenly father. I don’t have much to compare it too. I have no ill feelings  towards my Dad just more of a feeling of sadness and loss for what might have been. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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