In the early evening of a hot summer day I sat at the end of a wooden dock, my feet skimming the tepid water, watching a mother swan. Her coat was so white it shone vaguely blue, particularly as she floated atop the turquoise lake water.
What struck me most, however, was not her spectacular beauty but her calm demeanor. She floated, almost rested, on top of the water. Her head shifted from left to right above her long, graceful neck. Her movements were calculated and secure.
Behind her floated three cygnets, looking like puffy cotton balls with beaks. I recognized them as her offspring, not simply by their coal beaks but by her commanding demeanor. She was silent. They squeaked. And when they spoke to her she neither stopped or acknowledged their presence. She just kept paddling along. Neither mother nor cygnets seemed to pay any attention to each other. Always she kept her paddle feet pulling back the water beneath her breast.
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Dr. Meg’s NEW RELEASE!
From the moment a mother holds her newborn son, his eyes tell her that she is his world. But often, as he grows up, the boy who needs her simultaneously pushes her away. Calling upon thirty years of experience as a pediatrician, Meg Meeker, M.D., a highly sought after national speaker, assistant professor of clinical medicine, and mother of four, shares the secrets that every mother needs to know in order to strengthen—or rebuild—her relationship with her son.
Boys today face unique challenges and pressures, and the burden on mothers to guide their boys through them can feel overwhelming. This empowering book offers a road map to help mothers find the strength and confidence to raise extraordinary sons by providing encouragement, education, and practical advice about:
• the need for mothers to exercise courage and be bolder and more confident about advising and directing their boys
• the crucial role mothers play in expressing love to sons in healthy ways so they learn to respect and appreciate women as they grow up
• the importance of teaching sons about the values of hard work, community service, and a well-developed inner life
• the natural traps mothers of boys often fall into—and how to avoid them
• the need for a mother to heal her own wounds with the men in her life so she can raise her son without baggage and limitations
• the best ways to survive the moments when the going gets tough and a mom’s natural ways of communicating—talking, analyzing, exploring—only fuel the fire
When a mother holds her baby boy for the first time, she also instinctively knows something else: If she does her job right and raises her son with self-esteem, support, and wisdom, he will become the man she knows he was meant to be.
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By Dr. Meg Meeker
Dear Dr. Meg,
We have a 24 year old daughter who is very smart, but cannot seem to pick a decent guy to date. She is very giving, caring and also a people pleaser and does not like conflict. Can you recommend a book to us to share with her?
Dr. Meg’s Response
I like the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris.
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New hope may be available for children with autism. A study published in
the reputable journal Behavioral Neuroscience found that autistic behavior
in children ages 3-12 years old who received environmental sensory
experiences found marked improvement in their behavior.
The researchers from the University of California at Irvine won the D.G.
Marquis Behavioral Neuroscience Award for their work using the
Mendability Sensory Enrichment program. The program uses sensory
experiences such as having children place their hands on bowls
of varying degrees of warm water or walking on surfaces with different
textures. The program used no medication.
The Mendability Sensory Enrichment program was
co-founded by Eyal Aranoff, whose own daughter was diagnosed
with autism. With this sensory training, she is now reportedly
able to function as a normal teenager. The program follows carefully
selected sensory activities that can be done at home and it is designed
to be used along with other autism treatments.
This program is well worth checking out.
Visit www.mendability.com for more information.
A Mother’s Son, Part 1
By Meg Meeker, M.D.
Beneath the ethereal joy a mother feels at the first sight of her son, lies a nugget-sized ache wrapped in fear. Her infant son needs her. She loves him unconditionally. But she also feels the ache of knowing that he will grow into a man and leave, and one day belong to another. The juxtaposition of elation and fear is different for many mothers than the joy and fear they feel when a daughter is born.
She knows from the moment her son belts out his first wail that she exists to love him. She is needed because he needs her. He needs the nourishment, the security, and the love that she provides which will not only keep him alive; but also keep her knowing that she is needed. So she will protect, adore, and nurture this tiny boy until he becomes a man and then, the ache will feel overwhelming. As a man he will leave, and life as a mother will never be the same for her. She will continue to love her son, but the connection will be reworked. Not because she has changed but because one day, he will belong to another.
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